The #1 Regret Of The Dying Changed My Life
If you compare the last two years of my life to each other you'd see a stark contrast.
2016 was all travel all the time.
2017 was all work all the time.
This year is quickly coming to a close and I'm already thinking about 2018. I'm not very good about living in the moment. It's something I'm working on, but not fully succeeding at.
Being present and content in any situation is always difficult. It becomes especially difficult when I find yourself wanting to be somewhere else but not knowing where that place is.
When you travel the world you find yourself leaving pieces of your heart in every place you go. Before you know it, nowhere is home and everywhere feels like you could stay forever.
I thought I had finally gotten to the age where I would lay down some roots, find a career and start living my life the way I was expected to. It was the only thing I thought about this past year. Was I being successful by society's standard? Was I living an appropriate life? What wasn't I doing that everyone else was? My dreams could wait. I felt like I had to catch up to everyone else that had moved forward in the year that I spent running around Europe.
It was a few weeks ago that I stumbled upon a book called, "The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying," by Bronnie Ware. I was in tears as I read the top regret.
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.”
Teary eyed I closed the book and took a moment to think it over. I was not honoring my dreams anymore. I looked at the people I spend the most time with and realized none of them were living a life I envied. They had beautiful lives they created for themselves, but I realized that's the whole point. It was THEIR life that they had created FOR THEM, not for me. Following in their footsteps was disingenuous to the time I have been given.
I ask myself the focusing question, "Is what I am trading my life for worth it?" I can't get back this past year. I can't make it summer again, I can't not spend the money I did but what I can do is look to the present moment and focus on what my dream is and how I will get there.
We give ourselves so many limiting beliefs and excuses every single day. We lie to ourselves and say, "Someday, just not right now because it's not the right time."
What I have come to realize is that the time is never going to come until we simply make it happen. We have to decide that our dreams are bigger than our fears and do everything in our power to make it happen.
We have this one life, we are not meant to spend it clocking in day in and day out never seeing further than our backyard. We are meant to explore, succeed and flourish.
Is what is holding you back bigger than your dream? If it is, you need a bigger dream.